Hello and welcome to anyone reading!
Today’s question is from another querant looking for a sign; she wants to know if this is the right time to make a change and leave what sounds like a pretty passionate and tumultuous relationship.
There’s a quote I think of whenever someone is looking for signs;
And this is SO often the case with tarot querants. They know the answer they want to hear, they know the answer that’s right, and when those two things are different (or they’re not ready), they just want someone/something else to be responsible, so that they can pretend they didn’t make the decision themselves. This is not a good path to go down. So rather than just pull a card and say “yes” or “no” - and with all the usual disclaimers - I worked with the querant to ask some more useful questions that might help her get some insight into what she’s feeling right now.
I cleared and shuffled the deck, and have assigned the positions as follows:
Card #1 – If she chooses to stay, what does she need to know to give her the best chance of making things work?
Card #2 – If she chooses to leave, what does she need to know to exit the relationship in the healthiest way possible?
Card #3 – For her long term health and happiness, what is the most important thing for her to know/do in the next 6 months?
And the cards drawn are:
Overall, we have 2 major arcane cards (signifying that this is an important moment in her life, and that the choices she is making now will have real impact on her future), and a wand, which represent things that you make happen; wands are almost always cards of taking action.
Card #1… Judgement
The question was “If she chooses to stay, what does she need to know to give her the best chance of making things work?”
The judgement card in its’ traditional sense is about receiving judgement; it typically includes some grave imagery, to speak to the impossibility of avoiding final judgement. Specific to this question, it’s very representative of the crossroads my querant is at. She needs to make a life-changing decision, and the judgement card is telling her that if this is the one she’s making (to stay), she’ll need to USE her judgement and trust in her intuition and life experiences to guide her in handling the situation. The card imagery is also speaking to a rebirth; I believe it’s saying that if she stays, she needs to be willing to put in the hard work of providing her S.O. with honest & fair feedback, and holding her ground on the things that matter to her most. I don’t know that the message here is one that says that the relationship itself is 100% salvageable, but I do believe it’s indicating that if she needs to stay to give herself more time to make sure the decision is right, that no matter what her final choice in the longer term is, there is a path to a new future for her.
Card #2… The Eight of Wands
The question was “If she chooses to leave, what does she need to know to exit the relationship in the healthiest way possible?”
Wands are all about the things we make happen, the magic that comes from within ourselves, and this may be the most wandy of the the wand cards; the primary message in the eight of wands is one of driving change, speed, and most importantly, unity; it reminds us that great things can be accomplished when everything is moving in the same direction. Specific to this question, I think this is a crystal clear message; if leaving is the path she chooses, she needs to 100% commit to her decision, make a clean and immediate break, and distance herself from the past situation. If the relationship is going to end, the healthiest thing for her (and probably for her S.O. as well) is to get out and move on with her life; no booty calls, no getting convinced to get together to talk about things, no allowing guilt or the past to sneak in and divert her attention from moving forward.
Card #3… Temperance
The question was “For her long term health and happiness, what is the most important thing for her to know/do in the next 6 months?”
The temperance card tells us to get to a place of balance, moderation & patience; it’s a sign that now is a time to seek out healing and quiet composure. I think it’s interesting from an imagery perspective that both of the first two cards show such strong movement towards the stopping point of Temperance at the right side; given that my querant is feeling out of control right now, this makes so much sense.
If my querant chooses to stay in this relationship, the message to take from Temperance is to manage things carefully; this is not a time to initiate big emotional scenarios or to add drama to an already tense situation. She should work on finding the compromises that will allow her to be happy and healthy, and work to diffuse their arguments rather than adding fuel to the fire.
If she is choosing to leave, the message here would be to invest the time and effort in becoming comfortable on her own and figuring out what she really wants from life and her next lover before jumping into a new relationship. In either case, I would suggest that she focus calmly and with great deliberation and control on herself and her needs at this point in her life, and then figure out how to shape the world around her into one she can be both happy and successful in.
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Paula @ FibonacciTarot
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